Regret is often seen as a negative emotion that we should strive to avoid. We are told to live with no regrets and to make every moment count. That’s certainly what I used to think. Those who know me as a therapist, workshop leader, or speaker have likely heard...
Articles by Sandee Nebel
The Power of Looking for Happy Moments
The brain is wired to look out for danger. And since what we focus on grows, this means that we have a greater propensity to remember one negative comment in a whole sea of positives when we receive feedback about a presentation or something else we’ve done. This will...
Overloaded and Overwhelmed
The most frequent concern I’m hearing from clients right now is that they’re overwhelmed. Not just from work pressures or family commitments or financial stress (all very prevalent in the holiday season), but even the things they turn to for connection, recreation, and entertainment. They’re inundated by choices, from...
When Triggers Lose Power
Trigger warning: Some of the triggers I describe in this article may be triggering to you. What triggers you to feel anxious, use an unwanted behavior, have your buttons pushed, or brings back uncomfortable or traumatic memories or feelings? In clearing trauma, we can also reduce or remove the...
Anxiety and the Power of Pause
According to the American Psychological Association, as many as 70% of primary care visits are driven by patients’ psychological problems. Though you may go to your primary care practitioner with physical health issues, anxiety is likely to be a contributing factor. The impact of anxiety is multi-faceted. It may...
Say Yes to Telephone Therapy
During the stay-at-home times of the pandemic, I was conducting video therapy sessions between six and eleven hours a day. I took yoga micro-practice breaks and short walks, and did fine with the workload. I’ve often said that I enjoy my work so much that it should be called...
Feeling Stuck?
You’ve read that pile of self-help books. You’ve attended therapy for a while. You’ve taken your meds without ever missing a dose. You’re making progress towards living your life in recovery, even if the biggest sign of that is the fact that you haven’t given up. But you still...
Creating a Sanctuary
Everyone needs a corner, a room, or a space of their own where they can sit quietly and focus inwards. Our nervous systems are not able to be fully restored or refreshed if we are constantly moving. Only when we balance joyful movement with stillness, can we find a...
Design Your Home to Design Your Life
Did you know that my first career was interior design? I started studying architecture at the University of Miami, then a professor suggested I look into a neighboring program. The focus on designing interiors to enrich people’s lives really sang to me. I studied and worked in the field...
Lost. And Found.
My dear friend and colleague Dr. Judi Addelston was one of the best marriage and family therapists I’ve ever known. After 10 years of renting an office at my center, she opened her own counseling center. Also a professor of psychology, Judi was a natural teacher, a perfect match...